Sunday, November 6, 2011

Are Single Women Husband Hunting?

I put this question to some of my single friends who willingly answered not only for themselves but reported discussions they've had with their friends about the husband issue. I can't allege that is a statistically valid sampling but it does include a fair number of women ranging in age from their fifties to eighties. Surprising to me, the answer to the question was a resounding "No."

I got a variety of responses for not being in the husband-hunting mode: not emotionally ready for a serious/permanent relationship, financial reasons, and not willing to make the effort of adjusting to living with a new guy. I think the most frequently cited reason was the simple joy of living alone - not being responsible for anyone, doing what you want when you want, eating leftover Halloween candy for dinner if you feel like it.

Many women voiced an interest in having single male friends in their lives, companions for going to the movies, dinner, and social events. I personally like the idea of having a mix of male and female friends. I think it adds a balance of opinion and perspective.

How do you feel about husband hunting? Do you agree or disagree with the women who were represented in this post? Do you want men in your life as friends? Are there other issues to discuss?

2 comments:

  1. I don't want a husband. After being married for over forty years to the love of my life, I can't even imagine being with another man. Plus, I am beginning to enjoy being alone with no one but myself to take care of. I can't find time to do all I would like to do.
    But it would be nice to have a man friend to talk to and go out with once in a while. I think married women, no matter their age, are suspicious of a single woman who shows up alone at an event with married people. I wish it was not that way. Also, since my husband died, I feel awkward being with couples.
    GB

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  2. Thanks for your comment. Many women seem to like the idea of having men friends but without the intention of its developing into a serious relationship.
    Social situations deserve a separate post - we'll do one soon.

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