A topic that's been mentioned to me several times since I started this blog is the toll divorce takes on friendships. Of course, most women have an inner circle of girlfriends who support them no matter what. Thank goodness for them because they are true friends who've become firmly anchored to you over the course of decades of happiness and despair - yours and theirs. These girlfriends aren't going anywhere. They're with you.
But what about mutual friends of the couple? This is where it gets sticky because some of these friends will take sides with him or her. Even if no big divisive issue like infidelity is involved, picking and choosing sides comes into play. There's not a lot you can do to change the situation other than trying to salvage worthwhile individual friendships outside the realm of couple-dom. Others will disappear from your life. Their choice..
A completely opposite situation which seems kind of 4th grade to me comes about when one of the divorcing couple tells their friends they have to choose between him or her. They can't be friends with both. It strikes me as being easy to spot the jerk in this couple.
I'm sure this doesn't cover all the friendship complications brought on by divorce. Please add Comments about your experiences as a divorcee or a friend caught in the middle. I'm, also, interested how the death of a spouse affects friendships.
The blog has had a good response in its few weeks online. I hope you'll start leaving more Comments. I'm searching for guidance from you and answers to questions we're all facing!
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